Jul. 1st, 2019 11:27 am

SAH Gay

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While most queerfolk were celebrating Pride yesterday, I was celebrating Sloth. I had a couple instances of FOMO from pics friends posted of themselves enjoying Pride North, but they were more than outdone by the JOMO on the major thunderstorm that swept through and put an early end to the parade.

My first hint that this was happening was the curious behaviour of the cat, who--like me--was in full siesta mode at 2:15 in the afternoon. The thunder came a moment later, by which point Boobers was already under the bed. I'm sorry I missed watching the front come through; it looked very dramatic in the photos. But listening to the rain fall while shielded from its effects felt even more indulgent than an afternoon nap.

I still had a chance to overcome my inertia and make our little gay street fair but between six hours at the picnic and another four at Bearracuda, I felt I'd been quite social enough the day before. I also didn't expect the BOMB party to be as uncoordinated as it was which led to me being underhydrated for most of it. I tried to catch up before going out but I still ended up hung over enough that the thought of going out and drinking more wasn't enticing.

Nevertheless I might have yet made the effort if not for my boozerific week ahead. I have a fireworks-watching party on Wednesday, another one on Thursday, drinks at the Anvil on Friday, and of course my own cocktail event on Saturday. I don't expect to make all of these but even half would be a lot compared to what I'm used to.
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Last night I finished Alentejo blue just to be done with it. Why do I waste so much time with second-rate books? Well, because first-rate literature is generally more challenging. I made a stab at Artemio Cruz on the shuttle home but it was dense with description and I wasn't up to it. When I got home, I had the porch to myself and a stunning view of thunderheads over the lake catching the full evening sun and it was good to have a book I could interrupt at any moment to take in another cloud vista.

It had some decent parts but she really wrecked it with her characterisation of one of the Portuguese characters. Apparently a whole chapter about the morbidly obese guy trying to decide whether or not to eat a piece of cake wasn't enough to show how obsessed fat people are with food so she had to make it the leitmotiv of her description of the local festival, where all her various narrative threads come together in one room. It felt contrived and, at the same time, unsatisfying, so I'm not sure why she bothered.

In any case, I've moved on to a book I just learned existed, 邱妙津/Qiu Miaojin's《鱷魚手記》(Notes of a crocodile in Bonnie Huie's English translation). Apparently it was a groundbreaking work in Qiu's native Taiwan, even furnishing a slang word for "lesbian" based on the protagonist's name. All the agonised talk of "sin" and shame is familiar to me from similar works, but the style is a real departure. I can see why it made such a splash in 1994 when it was published; just a little earlier and it probably would've ended up on one of my college syllabi.
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Jan. 13th, 2016 02:43 pm

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Yesterday's get-together was a little sad and awkward. The idea was to spin off an LGBT "affinity group" to discuss...something. But we weren't really sure what. Apparently, whatever faculty/staff group we had on campus has gone dormant and no one seems really interested in restarting it. Right now it's just an orphaned webpage with a few outdated staff contacts.

The elephant in the room, of course, was whether our organisation actually needs such an affinity group. I tried to steer us toward this question by talking about the equivalent group at my last place of employment floundered after domestic partner benefits were made available to all staff and faculty. That just prompted some limp discussion of what other causes we could take up. What about homeless LGBTQ youth? Does anyone know of any bias incidents? What about queer foreign students, is anyone reaching out to them?

I estimate that the average age in the room was 50, which makes me wonder if there hasn't been a paradigm shift and we're on the other side of it. When I drop in on online discussions of sexuality among 20-somethings, I find myself confronted by an entirely new vocabulary. And not just for "new" identities--the entire categorisation system doesn't line up with what I know. Their whole conception of gender seems fundamentally different from the binary I was raised in, and that affects everything else.

So it's frustrating: there are clearly some rewarding conversations to have and plenty of worthwhile work to be done, but I don't see this particular constellation of individuals leading me to it. The one ray of hope was the suggestion that we get together with members of some of the student organisations and have them break down for us how they see things and what we can do to help.
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Are Bert and Ernie gay? And what does it matter?

This wasn't a question I was expecting to deal with today, but then the New Yorker had to go and grace its current issue with a cover depicting the pair snuggling on a couch before a television set bearing an image of the SCOTUS. Nuphy forwarded me a picture of it when it first came out and my reaction was, "You would like that." Personally I found it pretty banal. I must sound like an insufferable hipster for pointing out that a German weekly (the Magazin am Wochenende published by the Berliner Zeitung, unless I miss my guess--Nuphy and I both kept copies) did the same sort of cover back in 1997, to much less hubbub.

Some commentators (I'm really struggling not to use the pejorative label "mommy bloggers") seem pretty exercised about the way the image "sexualises children". It's a charge I have trouble wrapping my mind around, for two reasons: (1) the automatic equation of "marriage" (or "gay"?) with "sex" and (2) the identification of Bert and Ernie as "children". Apparently, they are "developmentally modeled on seven year-olds" according to Sesame Workshop (the successor to CTW). But growing up I never saw them that way. It was obvious that Sesame Street worked very different from the quasi-suburban neighbourhoods I ran around, but even so two seven year-olds sharing their own apartment? Children live with their parents; if you live on your own with no parents around, you must be an adult of some kind, even if you act pretty childish.

But even those who aren't prone to moral panic about adolescents are asking why we have to "make every relationship between two men sexual". I more amenable to this one, because I do think it's a shame how little room there is left for homosociality in our culture. Except that [livejournal.com profile] qwrrty went on to make a brilliant argument about how identifying two wholesome puppets on a popular children's show as queers was a subversive act of claiming some space for ourselves at a time when healthy depictions of gay male couples were all but absent in mainstream media. Though it may have begun as schoolyard sniggering, it ended up being an affirmation to thousands of us who came out in the 80s and 90s.

So, as it turns out, I actually do have a bit of a stake in asserting the acceptability or reading them as gay. Not the necessity; the great thing about popular characters (whether from literature or television or whatever) is that you can reinterpret them to serve your needs. If you're privileged enough not to have ever felt the need to bolster your self-esteem by identifying with a foam head draped over someone's arm, well bully for you. You probably benefited from a wealth of alternatives. But I took my role models where I could find them and one of those places was Sesame Street.
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Gay Sex Decriminalised in India

Incidentally, when I first viewed the article, the "Ads by Google" section at the bottom listed "The Timothy Plan", "Gay Weddings in Vermont", and "Denver Defense Law", in that order. The Timothy Plan, if you're not familiar with it, describes itself as "a family of mutual funds offering individuals, like yourself, a biblical choice when it comes to investing. If you are concerned with the moral issues (abortion, pörnography[*], anti-family entertainment, non-married lifestyles, alcohol, tobacco and gambling) that are destroying children and families you have come to the right place." But before I could get a screen capture (damn evangelical investor site crashing my flamboyantly homosexual browser!), it'd been replaced with "Canada Same Sex Marriage".


[*] Can I just burble for a minute about how much I love the heävÿ metäl ümlaüt in "pörnography"? I imagine it's there to spoof family-friendly filters, since the use appears consistent throughout the site.
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