May. 18th, 2023 12:20 pm
Bear updates
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muckefuckSo the guy I got hung up on at the tea dance? He sent me a FB request two days later and I just laughed. I considered sending him a message saying "Sinvergüenza!" but I didn't see the point. If I run into him again (what are the chances in this city?) I can say it to his face.
Saturday night I checked out a new bar with Kayla and RJ[*] and they wanted to do Jax afterwards so I got them suited up for the Hole. RJ had fun there for a change, which I was mostly happy about and only the tiniest bit jealous. I ran into two problematic people: One is a cutie that I've been low-key pursuing for a couple of years now. He'll make out with me, get a little bit handsy, and then pull away. I know he has some deep-seated issues so I don't press, but if I'm honest it's all getting a little tiresome.
The other was Big Chick, who once again showed up just as I was preparing to leave--and this despite telling me just over an hour earlier that he was heading home after his shift. He was flirtier than he's been in a while. I told him the story of the tea dance bear, which I described as someone "I'd been working on for an hour", to which he replied "Like you've been trying to work on me. We should talk about that." I told him that's exactly what I'd been trying to do for a month and he finally levelled with me about dating someone else. I asked him why he went home with me if that was the case and he told me they weren't going out back then, which makes sense and accounts for what I've observed. So nice to have some clarity on this even if it means severing the last thread of hope I was clinging to.
Also problematic is Hump Day, who's been MIA for two weeks. Yesterday I reread our old messages and spotted what I think was the problem: I told him about hooking up with with an Ozzie a couple weekends ago. It was just something I mentioned in passing, but from his response it seems like he may have interpreted it to mean that we were dating now and his services were no longer required.
If that's the case, clearing it up should be a simple matter, but I'm kind of annoyed. This is the third time something like this has happened and I'm asking myself "Why?" Why does he assume that I'm so ready to kick him to the curb? I've done what I can over the years to make it clear to him that this relationship is valuable to me without making it sound like I want him to leave his man and yet it doesn't seem to have taken.
[*] The Bear Formerly Known As BB
Saturday night I checked out a new bar with Kayla and RJ[*] and they wanted to do Jax afterwards so I got them suited up for the Hole. RJ had fun there for a change, which I was mostly happy about and only the tiniest bit jealous. I ran into two problematic people: One is a cutie that I've been low-key pursuing for a couple of years now. He'll make out with me, get a little bit handsy, and then pull away. I know he has some deep-seated issues so I don't press, but if I'm honest it's all getting a little tiresome.
The other was Big Chick, who once again showed up just as I was preparing to leave--and this despite telling me just over an hour earlier that he was heading home after his shift. He was flirtier than he's been in a while. I told him the story of the tea dance bear, which I described as someone "I'd been working on for an hour", to which he replied "Like you've been trying to work on me. We should talk about that." I told him that's exactly what I'd been trying to do for a month and he finally levelled with me about dating someone else. I asked him why he went home with me if that was the case and he told me they weren't going out back then, which makes sense and accounts for what I've observed. So nice to have some clarity on this even if it means severing the last thread of hope I was clinging to.
Also problematic is Hump Day, who's been MIA for two weeks. Yesterday I reread our old messages and spotted what I think was the problem: I told him about hooking up with with an Ozzie a couple weekends ago. It was just something I mentioned in passing, but from his response it seems like he may have interpreted it to mean that we were dating now and his services were no longer required.
If that's the case, clearing it up should be a simple matter, but I'm kind of annoyed. This is the third time something like this has happened and I'm asking myself "Why?" Why does he assume that I'm so ready to kick him to the curb? I've done what I can over the years to make it clear to him that this relationship is valuable to me without making it sound like I want him to leave his man and yet it doesn't seem to have taken.
[*] The Bear Formerly Known As BB
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