In your own time

[muckefuck]

Recently I've been thinking about the ways in which I push people away. It's not something I've normally considered myself guilty of, but it's what we all do to some degree. We have to. But there's establishing healthy boundaries and then there's insisting on interacting with people solely at your own convenience and on your own terms and sometimes I feel I tend too much toward the latter. I've been lamenting that my latest attempts at socialisation have resulted in adding a lot more superficial members to my circle of acquaintances but no real potential friends. Meanwhile I'm neglecting many of those who have been loyal to me for two decades or more. I keep saying I'll do something about this, start calling people up and getting together with them, but things keep "coming up". This week and last, it's baseball. Before that, it was Door County. Always something, always some reason why I can't be arsed to set aside even a couple of hours for people I claim to value.

Comments

[phillipalden.livejournal.com]

It's a hard balance to run sometimes. I live in the SF Bay Area. Everything is fast-paced and people are "busy" all the time.

At some point, we sat with our friends and together made an effort to spend more time together. Sometimes this means that some friends get more of our attention than others.

There are only so many hours in a day.

[muckefuck.livejournal.com]

There are actually quite a few, and most of us have quite a bit of discretion over how we fill them. Very few of my friends have children or work two jobs or do the sort of the things that make you inflexibly "busy" rather than simply overscheduled. More importantly, I'm certainly not in that boat, so the amount of time I spend alone is almost entirely due to acting on my own preferences.

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

Pffff. I relate to that more than I'd like to admit.

[anicca-anicca.livejournal.com]

+1