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Well, Saturday is turning out...interesting. A couple friends--well, guys I know--are having a housewarming at their new place is in West Chicago. Needless to say, this is not convenient to anything. I'll take light rail if I have to, but if I'm going that far, I'd rather travel with somebody, and they know plenty of folks up here on the Far North Side (it's where I met them, after all) so I should be able to bum a ride with somebody.
The first guy I asked is a cub in a dom-sub relationship with two sirs. There's room for a fourth in their car, but the sirs have never really warmed to me in 20+ years and I feel it would be awkward. The second guy I asked lives very close to me. We got together for dinner once last year and then snuggled afterward but I haven't heard from him since so I thought it might be a good excuse to get reacquainted.
At first he was like, "Sure!" Then he told me that he was heading down early to "help out" and had to check with the hosts. I was like, no prob, I don't mind helping out and messaged the one host I'm a little sweet on to make sure it was alright. He told me he'd have to check with his husband--which I thought was odd, because the guy who's driving told it was him and not his husband who might object, but whatever.
Then it all came out: Yes, he's arriving early to help out with the prep. (He's a professional chef.) However, he's also going to be servicing both the hosts as well (and is willing to do me, too, if time allows). Am I cool with that? So I've just inadvertently inserted myself into someone else's scene, which feels like a faux pas even if everyone professes to be cool with it.
So, in order to avoid one set of awkward circumstances, I've stepped right into another. But at least there's a payoff!
The first guy I asked is a cub in a dom-sub relationship with two sirs. There's room for a fourth in their car, but the sirs have never really warmed to me in 20+ years and I feel it would be awkward. The second guy I asked lives very close to me. We got together for dinner once last year and then snuggled afterward but I haven't heard from him since so I thought it might be a good excuse to get reacquainted.
At first he was like, "Sure!" Then he told me that he was heading down early to "help out" and had to check with the hosts. I was like, no prob, I don't mind helping out and messaged the one host I'm a little sweet on to make sure it was alright. He told me he'd have to check with his husband--which I thought was odd, because the guy who's driving told it was him and not his husband who might object, but whatever.
Then it all came out: Yes, he's arriving early to help out with the prep. (He's a professional chef.) However, he's also going to be servicing both the hosts as well (and is willing to do me, too, if time allows). Am I cool with that? So I've just inadvertently inserted myself into someone else's scene, which feels like a faux pas even if everyone professes to be cool with it.
So, in order to avoid one set of awkward circumstances, I've stepped right into another. But at least there's a payoff!