Drama!

[muckefuck]

A good friend wrote me this morning with a short list of questions, beginning with "You finally have drama on your lj, and I miss it all?"

Exactly how I feel.

I logged in this morning to find the whole situation already played out. androkles has deFriended me, which is a real shame, since I've always enjoyed his comments. I'm sorry he only Friended me out of a feeling of obligation and I wish we could've come to some compromise between my desire to include sexually explicit material in my journal and his desire not to see any of it. In any case, for posterity's sake, here's clarification of some of what went down, as near as I can reconstruct it:

• I did not delete anyone's comments. Therefore, any deleted comments must've been cancelled by the person who posted them.
• I don't know why danthered's comment in which he calls androkles an "asshole" does not appear in my LJ, since I received notification of it as I would for a comment. Perhaps he emailed it to me and androkles only? If so, I'm sorry if he had an expectation of confidentiality. I'm a very strong believer in that privilege up until the point where it serves to conceal verbal abuse.
• This is my journal. I write about my life here. One of the things I do in life is have sex. (This is the point at which we find out how good you are at syllogisms:) Ergo, I will write about sex in this journal. I'm willing to spare people's delicate sensibilities by putting all sexually explicit material behind lj-cut tags. Just let me know.
• I do not expect reciprocity when I Friend people. I haven't Friended everyone who's Friended me and not everyone I've Friended has Friended me back. I'm fine with that. If you're not, then you must do what you feel is right.

That's all I can think of right now. Any further questions?

Comments

[febrile.livejournal.com]

Wow, interesting -- I missed the drama, and now it seems that a lot of the dramatic text has gone missing.

People take this LiveJournal Friending thing way too seriously. I completely expected someone to razz me about my Catholic jokes, and there were some who were uncomfortable with the Death Poll. If people feel the desire to look at something else, then by all means they should.

Friending/deFriending ain't no thang. Hissyfits are silly.

[danthered.livejournal.com]

Perhaps he emailed it to me and androkles only? I'm a very strong believer in that privilege up until the point where it serves to conceal verbal abuse.

Yes, genius, it didn't appear in your journal because I emailed it privately. Very good for figuring that out all by yourself. And let's be accurate: I didn't call androkles an asshole. I said I believed he was behaving like an asshole, and I do believe that. Didn't feel the need to post it in public, since somebody else had pretty much covered all the points I would've made in a public comment. All of us are guilty of behaving like an asshole from time to time, eh?

If you truly consider private messages saying "I believe such-and-such a person is behaving like an asshole" to be "concealed verbal abuse", I greatly overestimated your intelligence.

I'm sorry if he had an expectation of confidentiality

No, no, no, for heaven's sake, don't apologise! The warning is informative and valuable! Private messages sent to muckefuck ARE NOT PRIVATE, they will be broadcast in his journal. Got it.

Yeesh. I believe you've behaved like an asshole, too. (There, right out in public to save you the trouble...)

[mollpeartree.livejournal.com]

Oh, for Chrissake.

I feel like an occasion for sin now, asking you about what the dude was talking about with name-calling comment. Sorry to have set off a new chain of drama.

[dilletante.livejournal.com]

sorry for having contributed to the escalation. :(