Sep. 19th, 2022 02:28 pm
The return of Bama Clint
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muckefuckWell, this was unexpected.
Out of the blue, my friend Benty asked me Sunday morning whether I would consider dating a trans woman. Formulating an answer was tricky; I wanted to say something along the lines of "This is really a conversation". I finally settled on "I believe trans women are women and I've never dated a woman." Have I ever wanted to date a woman? It's Complicated.
I saw him last night and forgot to bring up the topic, so I texted him this morning and asked what prompted the question. He said he couldn't give an answer without betraying a confidence, which only further piqued my curiosity. There was only one mutual we had who's intimated to me that they might be trans. I didn't want to ask directly so I replied to the effect that it sounded like he was talking about someone who was interested in dating me and, as far as I know, no one was interested in dating me.
Not even two minutes later, I got a text out of the blue from Bama Clint, essentially confirming my suspicions outright. Just to be sure, though, I texted OG Clint, who I knew was out at Anvil on Saturday with Benty. I was like, "Was Bama Clint there too?" and he said yes, why? I told him I think he and Benty had had a conversation about me. "Is that good or bad?" "Yes."
The reason why it was out of the blue was that I haven't heard a word from BC since he blew me off two weeks ago. He told me he wanted to get coffee with me so I said "pick a date". We did, I confirmed the day of asking him to pick a place and time and then never heard back. So I basically wrote him off at that point.
By an odd coincidence, I brought up BC in conversation at the beach only yesterday. While coaxing BB into the water (the entertainment value of which totally made my day), we ran into a bearish pair, one of whom asked if BB had once given him a piggyback ride. We had a good laugh at that, and it reminded me of something BC had once shared with me, so I told them, "I knew a guy who told me he gets off from getting piggyback rides. I was like, okay, I'll try that but then he ghosted me."
Another thing Bama Clint had confided in me was that they had another identity which they were only comfortable revealing to certain people. At the time, I was very flattered, but that was before a string of disappointments culminating in the coffee date which never happened. My initial reaction to this new attempt at contact was essentially "eat a dick" but I knew I couldn't text that. I finally settled on "Do you know the expression 'all hat and no cattle'?"
As expected, he did, and it resulted in a three-paragraph explanation of why I should give him yet another chance. My gut says no. Clint says no. Benty says think about it. Since there's no downside to giving it some thought, I'm willing to do that. But honestly I can't think of any reason to make this little fuckup a priority right now.
Out of the blue, my friend Benty asked me Sunday morning whether I would consider dating a trans woman. Formulating an answer was tricky; I wanted to say something along the lines of "This is really a conversation". I finally settled on "I believe trans women are women and I've never dated a woman." Have I ever wanted to date a woman? It's Complicated.
I saw him last night and forgot to bring up the topic, so I texted him this morning and asked what prompted the question. He said he couldn't give an answer without betraying a confidence, which only further piqued my curiosity. There was only one mutual we had who's intimated to me that they might be trans. I didn't want to ask directly so I replied to the effect that it sounded like he was talking about someone who was interested in dating me and, as far as I know, no one was interested in dating me.
Not even two minutes later, I got a text out of the blue from Bama Clint, essentially confirming my suspicions outright. Just to be sure, though, I texted OG Clint, who I knew was out at Anvil on Saturday with Benty. I was like, "Was Bama Clint there too?" and he said yes, why? I told him I think he and Benty had had a conversation about me. "Is that good or bad?" "Yes."
The reason why it was out of the blue was that I haven't heard a word from BC since he blew me off two weeks ago. He told me he wanted to get coffee with me so I said "pick a date". We did, I confirmed the day of asking him to pick a place and time and then never heard back. So I basically wrote him off at that point.
By an odd coincidence, I brought up BC in conversation at the beach only yesterday. While coaxing BB into the water (the entertainment value of which totally made my day), we ran into a bearish pair, one of whom asked if BB had once given him a piggyback ride. We had a good laugh at that, and it reminded me of something BC had once shared with me, so I told them, "I knew a guy who told me he gets off from getting piggyback rides. I was like, okay, I'll try that but then he ghosted me."
Another thing Bama Clint had confided in me was that they had another identity which they were only comfortable revealing to certain people. At the time, I was very flattered, but that was before a string of disappointments culminating in the coffee date which never happened. My initial reaction to this new attempt at contact was essentially "eat a dick" but I knew I couldn't text that. I finally settled on "Do you know the expression 'all hat and no cattle'?"
As expected, he did, and it resulted in a three-paragraph explanation of why I should give him yet another chance. My gut says no. Clint says no. Benty says think about it. Since there's no downside to giving it some thought, I'm willing to do that. But honestly I can't think of any reason to make this little fuckup a priority right now.