I try to follow the same principle. I don't ever want someone to find out via social media that I'm annoyed with them over something that happened offline. If I need to vent about people, I try to do it in fora where the majority of participants are privy to neither their identity nor mine. More often, however, I just bitch to the Old Man. (Though that's not perfect either, because it can be awkward when something I've said in anger ends up colouring his opinion of that person ever after.)
But I saw this incident a little differently. Before my sister raises potentially tricky issues with somebody, she likes to get feedback to make sure that her assumptions are reasonable and her perceptions aren't distorted. I've never seen my aunts comment on her feed before, so I can see how she might conclude that they wouldn't see the discussion before she had a chance to speak to them directly about her concerns.
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Date: 2012-12-19 04:26 pm (UTC)But I saw this incident a little differently. Before my sister raises potentially tricky issues with somebody, she likes to get feedback to make sure that her assumptions are reasonable and her perceptions aren't distorted. I've never seen my aunts comment on her feed before, so I can see how she might conclude that they wouldn't see the discussion before she had a chance to speak to them directly about her concerns.