If I wouldn't have the conversation in front of someone, I generally try not to post it publicly. (Or the near-equivalent, like the Facebook "Friends" list for most people.)
So "this thing this person did created problems for me" would either go to that person if I actually have something I want to work out with them, or to a limited list that they're not part of and with which there's unlikely to be overlap (and that I generally trust not to shout from the rooftops) if I just want to vent or talk out the issue.1
As the informal barriers to information dissemination dissolve (there were never really any technical ones) I'm increasingly reticent about the latter. I'm more likely to ask myself if I could live with anything's winding up in the worst possible recipient's inbox or, as my dad likes to say, on the front page of the New York Times.
(Which is frustrating, because I'm crap at face-to-face conversation about anything remotely stress-inducing or controversial, so text is a preferable way of dealing with it, if all things were equal.)
1In practice, this only applies to people I know, since I'm evidently willing to say unkind things about acts of political figures or work by artists that I wouldn't likely say directly. But if the person is a known participant in a forum or I otherwise discover that they're reading it, then it definitely does apply.
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Date: 2012-12-19 04:04 pm (UTC)So "this thing this person did created problems for me" would either go to that person if I actually have something I want to work out with them, or to a limited list that they're not part of and with which there's unlikely to be overlap (and that I generally trust not to shout from the rooftops) if I just want to vent or talk out the issue.1
As the informal barriers to information dissemination dissolve (there were never really any technical ones) I'm increasingly reticent about the latter. I'm more likely to ask myself if I could live with anything's winding up in the worst possible recipient's inbox or, as my dad likes to say, on the front page of the New York Times.
(Which is frustrating, because I'm crap at face-to-face conversation about anything remotely stress-inducing or controversial, so text is a preferable way of dealing with it, if all things were equal.)
1In practice, this only applies to people I know, since I'm evidently willing to say unkind things about acts of political figures or work by artists that I wouldn't likely say directly. But if the person is a known participant in a forum or I otherwise discover that they're reading it, then it definitely does apply.