Monday Mini-Poll: Lopsided couples

[muckefuck]

Another heroic gesture in the struggle to pick up the mantle rollick has let fall...

Recently, a buddy of mine and I were discussing (or perhaps just dissing) the immature boyfriend of a mutual friend. He said he's "trying not to get too sour on him" because "I don't need more lop-sided couples for friends".

I knew just what he meant. I was in one of those relationships once. I once asked princeofcairo how he managed to still his lashlike tongue and put up with an s.o. of mine who conflicted with him in every way imaginable. He said, "I always learned that you don't mess up your friends' relationships."

So when there's this kind and funny friend of yours whose girlfriend is loud, overbearing, and kvetchy or this cute and fascinating guy you know married this moody little creep who can suck the life out of any gathering--what do you do? You can hardly say, "Oh, when you come over tomorrow, do everyone a favour and leave your other half at home, okay?" Do you grit your teeth and keep inviting them both? Do you let them slowly drift out of touch (perhaps in the unvoiced hope that he'll finally lose that dipshit bimbo of his)--and, if so, what do you say to that sweetheart friend of yours when she wants to know why "we never see each other anymore"?

Comments

[0595.livejournal.com]

I vote for drifting apart and blaming your busy schedules.

[snowy-owlet.livejournal.com]

[i]married this moody little creep who can suck the life out of any gathering[/i]

Hey, I used to BE that friend!

I also tend toward avoidance. For example, I like to pretend that Kitsune's best friend (the taller of his two attendants) doesn't exist. Makes my life a LOT easier.

[zerbie.livejournal.com]

One lopsided couple I know recently got married (you likely read about the wedding in rollick's journal). We, the friends of the groom, pretty much hate the girl. They've been together for three or four years, I think, and it did at one point come down to a bunch of guys sitting him down and saying, "Hey man, we hate the girl. Don't bring her around."

I'm not sure if I support that strategy or not, but it worked with this guy. He stopped bringing her around. Of course, he didn't hang out with us as much any more, but when he did [does], it was a lot more enjoyable.

I don't think there's a catch-all answer. I have friends I would tell unhesitatingly, "I hate your S.O. I don't want to hang out with that person ever again." And it would be fine. For others, it would end the friendship. I think it just depends.