This is where the party ends
So there I am having a pleasant conversation with my friend (who I'll call Coleman) and our new acquaintance. He's a bit theatrical, but engaging enough. We're all comparing notes on our religious upbringings and lightheartedly debating the merits of Catholic vs. Jewish services. If not for the presence of a television set in the room, the banter could've likely gone on indefinitely, much to the enjoyment of all.
But there is a television present, it's showing a news programme, and there's a portrait of Henry Louis Gates, Jr. Coleman is distracted, chatting with Miss April, so I'm the sole beneficiary of the tirade this man launches into. No reason to reproduce it here; if been anywhere in the States this week (including the American blogosphere) you've already heard it a dozen times. But there eventually comes a point where I can no longer grit my teeth, and that point is when he says, "Gates' ancestors were freed blacks in the North so he's never experienced repression."
How does one respond to such vicious cluelessness? (Assume for the purposes of your response that simply decking the man is off the table.) The two choices apparent to me were to say, "What the FUCK would you know about it, you privileged white motherfucker?" and start a knock-down drag-out argument with biting and scratching or to say as little as possible and leave immediately. Out of consideration for Coleman, I did the latter.
Can we just call a moratorium on this shit? Anytime we have an cause célèbre involving race, can we set aside one day only for members of the dominant class to lecture the rest of us on what it's like to be a POC and then have them keep their supremely unedifying opinions to themselves forever after?
But there is a television present, it's showing a news programme, and there's a portrait of Henry Louis Gates, Jr. Coleman is distracted, chatting with Miss April, so I'm the sole beneficiary of the tirade this man launches into. No reason to reproduce it here; if been anywhere in the States this week (including the American blogosphere) you've already heard it a dozen times. But there eventually comes a point where I can no longer grit my teeth, and that point is when he says, "Gates' ancestors were freed blacks in the North so he's never experienced repression."
How does one respond to such vicious cluelessness? (Assume for the purposes of your response that simply decking the man is off the table.) The two choices apparent to me were to say, "What the FUCK would you know about it, you privileged white motherfucker?" and start a knock-down drag-out argument with biting and scratching or to say as little as possible and leave immediately. Out of consideration for Coleman, I did the latter.
Can we just call a moratorium on this shit? Anytime we have an cause célèbre involving race, can we set aside one day only for members of the dominant class to lecture the rest of us on what it's like to be a POC and then have them keep their supremely unedifying opinions to themselves forever after?
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sorry, you lost me at "ancestors."
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Dirty elitist! At least Crowley drinks all-American Blue Moon (a Belgian-style faux-Canadian beer).
I wonder if the White House serves Budweiser these days.
(Sorry. I expended any energy I had for saying serious things about this topic a while ago)
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The rush to demonize this person for calling the police (as in my opinion she absolutely should have done) is the thing I hate the very, very most about this story. But that may be because I live in a high-crime neighborhood lousy with guilty white liberals.
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At the same time, I find it hard to accept that the race of the men--even if imperfectly known--played no role whatsoever in the incident. Perhaps I'm being horribly unfair to Ms Whalen and she would've been every bit as conscientious in reporting the apparent break-in had it involved two ivory-skinned blonde women. But I've simply lived in our imperfect world too long to be entirely convinced of that.
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Trust me, if the person across the street is worried about whether she's only worried about a black guy breaking into my house because he's black, my stuff will have already been fenced by the time she makes up her mind to place a call. Both times I've had my purse snatched, it was an occasion where a guy was making me nervous, but I decided to ignore the fear signals my gut was sending me because I thought I was probably just worried about him because he was black. The one minor sexual assault I've experienced in my life, exact same deal. Why do I feel so afraid of that group of black guys? Am I a racist? Well I won't cross the street, by gum, not me. Oh, oops.
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What a mess! We'll see if the Prez can thread his way through the race-n-class stuff.
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It's hard to make that judgment call about when to dial 911. When I hear a high-pitched scream, I have to decide whether it's kids playing or somebody in trouble. I do, however, always call 911 when men are screaming or fighting, even if they are plump and middle aged.
I'm just a bundle of prejudices! I should go to CAPS myself.
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We all are, IMHO. Which is one of the many reasons I don't want to insist that people must be spiritually perfect before placing 911 calls.