A friend of mine recently noted that the Irish do three things well: Horses, Guinness and Death. Having experienced more than my share of departures for my age, I've found that with death comes clarity. The truest feelings and emotions are right there - visible, obvious and clear as daylight. I've gained my deepest insights and formed my most profound evaluations of what is important- in subjective or objective terms- or not, at the death of a loved one. I trust those emotions and the actions they present.